What if in a moment of magic, you closed your eyes and everything was wonderful. What would you do? Would you even believe it? Or would you kick it to the side because all you would see is your chaotic, trivial world and not even be able to the good?

We all have “those” days, even weeks. But what about months or possibly even years? Nothing seems quite right, the battle is strong and you are weary. Your sword has been used so much that it is dull, your brain is foggy, your shield is breaking and your body is aching.

What do you do in these times? No, seriously, what do you do? How do you recharge, heal, rest or just simply attempt to enjoy the simple pleasures of life? What do you do when you have just about lost trust for all those around you, what do you do when suddenly feel like you are on an island, but still trying to run and hide from someone? Seriously, what do you?

You might try closing your eyes and hope, beg, pray your way through some sort of magical process. Asking the universe for something different. Asking God for it all to go away or to become “better.” But, as we all know those things rarely happen and if they do, it’s never quick enough.

I would like to say that I am having one of those days or weeks. I really would, because then I might feel just a little bit of hope in all of this foggy world I am in. But I believe like many of us today, the past 6-12 months has been anything but enjoyable. And for me personally when I look back at the past 6-7 years – oh my goodness! Not that it has been a run of negative years, but its been a run of key events that have acted as catalysts that have occurred over these years that has now led to a very large reaction. Think cesium and water combining- its a very rapid chemical interaction that leads to an explosion!

As I work through this reaction, I can share a few things I have learned so far in this burnt out, scorched ground place I am at.

1. Don’t shut your spouse out. Your spouse is walking alongside of you in this and if you think its hard for you, imagine their world! They want to help, console, love and you have no idea what you need. No matter what – don’t shut your spouse out, they love you and have your back!
2. Keep talking to a few close friends – those that you know who will listen and allow you to share the junk. No matter what – keep talking.
3. Seek mentors, seek counseling, seek help! You cannot do this alone. I know you want to. Do you why I know this? Because its what I have tried and failed at. No matter what – seek help.
4. Breathe. No really, breathe. Stop long enough to take in some fresh air, step outside in a fresh wind and breathe it in – its an amazing little thing I have found that helps clear my head a bit. No matter what – breathe.
5. Remember that He is in charge. God knows exactly what is happening, why its happening and He is in charge. He has plans for your life and sometimes course corrections happen. No matter what – Remember He is in charge.
6. This one was shared with me yesterday. It was shared by a man, a friend, a pastor and mentor that has had such an impact on me that I don’t even know where to begin sharing about that. So I will keep it simple and just say thank you Pastor Tim for all you have poured into me and for all that you continue to pour into me. But also thankyou for being obedient to that call on your life so many years ago! Ready for this one? Never get out of the boat until He is calling you out of that boat. Because if you get out of that boat before His calling you, you will sink. But, if you wait for Him and His calling you out of that boat – you will be able to walk on water and go to whatever He planned next for you. No matter what – stay in the boat until He calls for you!

Thanks for stopping by the fire,

Pastor Dennis