As someone who works with people figuring out life, one of the biggest questions I hear is: “What’s my purpose?” People usually ask this when they’re going through changes, feeling stuck, or just want something more meaningful in their lives. Finding your purpose isn’t some abstract idea; it’s about discovering what gives your life direction and joy.

The best part? Purpose is personal. No one else can tell you what it is—it’s shaped by what you love, what you value, what you’re good at, and what you’ve been through. Here’s a simple way to start figuring it out:

1. Look Inward Begin with getting to know yourself better. Ask yourself:
   • What’s really important to me?
   • What activities make time fly for me?
   • What kind of difference do I want to make in the world? These questions aren’t about having perfect answers right away—they’re more like prompts to get you thinking. You can try journaling, meditating, or just sitting with these thoughts quietly.
2. Find What Fires You Up Your purpose probably lives where your passions and skills overlap. Think about what excites you and what you’re naturally good at. For example, if you enjoy helping people and are great at solving problems, maybe counseling, teaching, or volunteering is your thing. And if you’re not sure what excites you? Try new things—take classes, join groups, and embrace the uncertainty. You might surprise yourself.
3. Be Open to Change Your purpose doesn’t stay the same forever. What feels right now might shift as you grow and experience more in life. That’s okay! Purpose isn’t always about grand gestures—it can be in the small, meaningful things, like showing kindness or spending time on what you love.
4. Connect with People Talking to others can help. Friends, family, mentors—they can give you insights about yourself that you might not notice. Helping others, like volunteering or just being a good listener, can also bring a sense of purpose.
5. Take Small Steps Purpose isn’t something you “find”—it’s something you create through your actions. Start small: focus on activities you care about, set personal goals, and celebrate progress as you go.
6. Push Past Doubts It’s easy to think, “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll fail.” When that happens, remind yourself of what you’re good at and how you’ve made an impact before. Purpose is about being real and growing—not being perfect.
7. Stop Comparing Yourself Social media can make it look like everyone else has life all figured out. But remember: their journey isn’t yours, and your purpose is unique. No one else has to approve of it but you.

Living with Meaning

When you focus on what truly matters to you, life feels more fulfilling and focused. And just remember, finding your purpose isn’t a one-time thing—it’s a journey. As you grow, your purpose might change, and that’s a good thing. Stay curious and open-minded about what’s ahead.

So, what’s one small thing you can start doing today to feel closer to what matters most to you? Purpose isn’t hiding—it’s already inside you, just waiting to be discovered.

Let’s talk about finding your purpose! Email now and request a free coaching session. coachdtw@gmail.com

Thanks for stopping by the fire,

Coach Dennis Wagner BCLC